salam,
artikel ini sy ambil dr utusan malaysia,yg mane infonye sgt bagus untuk wanita2 bujng dlm mencari jodoh,termasuklah saye,hehehe.
10 tanda lelaki sedia untuk komitmen
MEMASUKI tahun batu mungkin ada yang sudah berazam untuk menamatkan hubungan dengan teman lelaki atau wanita melalui ikatan pernikahan.
Persoalannya, adakah teman anda atau anda sendiri telah bersedia untuk memberi komitmen kepada satu ikatan yang kekal atau masih dilanda fobia untuk melepaskan gelaran bujang.
Bagi wanita, sekarang ini mungkin masanya untuk melihat sama ada teman lelaki anda benar-benar sudah bersedia dan mempunyai matlamat yang sama.
Beberapa Panduan ini mungkin boleh menolong untuk mengetahui sama ada lelaki sudah bersedia untuk memberi komitmen pada satu ikatan perkahwinan.
1. Kawan-kawannya terdiri daripada lelaki yang sudah berkahwin
Jika berasakan teman lelaki anda adalah calon suami yang sesuai, anda perlu periksa sama ada rakan-rakannya adalah kalangan lelaki yang sudah berkahwin.
Kajian menunjukkan bahawa jika rakan-rakannya sudah berumah tangga, dia lebih berkemungkinan besar mempunyai keinginan untuk berkahwin.
Tetapi, jika rakan-rakannya di kalangan lelaki bujang dan masih berada di fasa ingin berseronok dan berparti, ia mungkin isyarat yang kurang baik.
2. Kewangannya stabil
Kajian menunjukkan bahawa lelaki yang mempunyai rumah sendiri lebih bersedia untuk berkahwin. Lelaki yang berasakan kewangannya stabil akan melihat perkahwinan adalah peringkat seterusnya dalam fasa hidup mereka.
3. Dia mula mendesak anda
Lelaki yang bersedia untuk membuat komitmen akan membuka langkah terlebih dahulu. Jika emel anda kepadanya mengambil masa beberapa hari untuk dibalas atau jika anda terpaksa bertanya untuk tahu di mana dia berada atau jika anda saja terpaksa menghubunginya, anda mungkin mengejar lelaki yang mungkin tidak berminat terhadap perkahwinan.
4. Dia bersedia untuk menunggu
Jika lelaki tersebut mengambil inisiatif untuk mengenali anda dengan lebih dekat, dia kemungkinan besar bersedia membuat komitmen.
5. Mengambil berat ketika anda sakit
Jika dia mengambil berat keadaan anda ketika anda sakit, ini menunjukkan lelaki ini bukan berada di sisi hanya untuk berseronok. Jika dia mahu bersama anda ketika susah, itu tanda dia bersedia dengan hubungan jangka panjang seperti perkahwinan.
6. Dia berusaha mengenali rakan dan keluarga anda
Lelaki yang memikirkan hubungan jangka panjang mahu mengenali anda dengan lebih mendalam. Melihat anda berinteraksi dengan keluarga dan rakan-rakan anda, membantu dia mengenali anda dengan lebih mendalam.
Pada masa sama dia juga mahu anda mengenalinya dengan lebih dekat. Dia mahu melihat sama ada anda sesuai dengan keluarga dan rakan-rakannya.
Lelaki yang cuba menjauhkan anda dengan individu-individu yang penting dalam hidupnya, melihat hubungan sebagai suka-suka saja.
7. Dia menggunakan perkataan 'kita' bukannya 'saya'
Apabila dia bertukar daripada menggunakan 'saya' kepada 'kita', itu tanda dia semakin komited dengan anda.
Jika teman lelaki hanya menyebut 'saya' berbanding 'kita' dalam perbualan biarpun selepas sekian lama berkenalan, sebenarnya dia masih senang dengan dirinya sebagai lelaki bujang.
8. Dia tidak takut berkompromi
Lelaki yang bersedia terhadap komitmen tidak ragu-ragu untuk meminta pendapat atau berbincang mengenai sesuatu keputusan yang beliau buat dan dia bersedia berkompromi dengan anda.
Lelaki ego yang mahu segala-galanya mengikut caranya tidak bersedia untuk berkompromi, sedangkan ia merupakan sebahagian sifat semula jadi sebuah hubungan yang matang.
9. Dia tidak perlu berdalih
Lelaki yang fobia dengan komitmen sentiasa mencari pelbagai alasan sama ada untuk tidak mahu keluar dengan anda, alasan kenapa tidak menelefon dan alasan mengapa tidak bersedia untuk membawa hubungan ke peringkat seterusnya.
Sebaliknya, lelaki yang bersedia dengan komitmen tidak perlu berdalih, dia hanya perlukan anda.
10. Dia suka pada hubungan jangka panjang
Jika dia sentiasa mengadu mengenai memerlukan ruang untuk bersendirian, melayan anda seolah-oleh anda satu bebanan bukannya anugerah dan sentiasa bercakap agar tidak perlu terburu-buru untuk membawa hubungan ke peringkat seterusnya, secara tidak langsung dia memberitahu bahawa dia tidak bersedia untuk komitmen.
Menulis sekadarnya. Sekadar ingatan buat diri sendiri. Memerhati luaran bagi memahami dalaman. Mencipta ruang bagi mencipta peluang.
Saturday, February 7, 2009
Friday, February 6, 2009
PTD examinations, maybe some tips perhaps?
Dear all,
Ive been thinking a lot about my future lately, n i think its time to move on. after most my close friends now are succcesful with their career,i think its time to step up and pursue my own goals. of cos, being a lecturer is always my passion, an interest which i could hardly forget, but now, time 2 move on. on top of that, mostly my friends now are on their way to become civil servants, a position that are hardly to be achieved in Malaysia, but once u got it, u r d luckies person in d world. i hv deeply thought abaout it, n come with a conclusion that teaching is alwiz my passion, alwiz my interest, but the most important thing is, a stability in my own life. i also think that this is the perfect time to realize my parents ambition, at least one of their children become a goverment officer.
i was having a 'crush' with PTD before, but cos of many scary stories on PTD assessments n training in INTAN, make me less interest to join it. how stupid i am! now, after 2 years waiting for 'signal', i think its d time to try again. eventhough many claim that PTD exam is quite tough, but i just want to give it a shot one more time. n even if this time luck is not in my side, i will keep trying until i got it.
historically, i sat for PTD exam 2 years ago, n alhamdulillah, i managed 2 passed d test. but, how 'crazy' i am, i did not go 2 d second assessment, cos i just got a new job in d company that im working now, n hesitant to apply 4 leave. i never thought that d exam is hardly to be scored by everybody, yet i just let the chance slipped away! thats y i really regretted d action, n with the aim to do it again,n tawakal to Allah swt, i may get d second chance. as people used to say ' Good opportunity will never come twice. if its come twice,then u r lucky'.
but, we hv 2 believe in Allah's power n glory. He knows whats best for us. He knows why he plans in such a way. never complaints on Allah's plan because everything comes with reason.
now, im in d process of looking back all news dated 1-2 months back. from the feedbacks of many, PTD questions will generally based on Malaysian history n general issues related to Malaysia. i remember one question on members on Cobbold Commission, in which i totally forget during the exam... so d questions are something like that, if u wanna try yourself, maybe u can try aswering questions on Pengajian Malaysia subject and Pengajian Am subject. its very difficult 2 predict, but i also remember they also ask about malaysian entertainments, such as question on PGL,members of senate from entertainment background, who won best actress in the global award festivals, n so on. they also frequently ask on rmk, yearly budget, national policies, sports, politics (of cos) n issues on constitution. its good also 2 know who won tokoh maal hijrah, theme for merdeka last year, theme for budget 2008, manifesto bn for 2008 election, n name of ministers. for sports, good also to know who won the latest piala malaysia, who won eur0 2008, where euro n final piala malaysia took place, n issue on badminton. i mean, this is just my predictions, not a real questions. somehow we need 2 think like the question setter. at least, we can be prepared.
for those who did not read newspaper daily(me too,heheh), just browse it using our digital media, it is much more faster than searching in tha wardobe. good to search start from December-first 2 weeks of February 2009, but the questions is not just coming from general issues lately. hot issues like english in math n science, landslide, israel occupation in gaza n many more can be considered as well.
for math, i think we better go n ask for assistance from our frenz that is good in math, teaches us some basic calculation in math, percentage, fractions, logics, n income tax calculations.
sahsiah diri? just be yourself, dnt think too long for a questions, because if we think 2 long, we tend to be dishonest. however, make sure that our honesty is 'normalised'. u got what i mean? :)
english essay n malay essei, most important is your points. just put aside all grammatical errors, especially in english. its good for u 2 highlight those points using highlighter or its good enough if u can line it properly. at least, it shows that u know what u write in. if u can managed ur time, perhaps u can make some small notes on the main points that u wanna talk about, n later on expand ur ideas creatively. but,this is not an essay writing competition, its good to follow their maximum numbers limited by them.
comprehesion? just make yourself comfortable n relax while reading. even time is consuming, but remember this tips: read the questions first, thn u read the passage. at least, u know what the passage is talking about.
i pray that all who attend this exam on 21st february will be successful in their exam. just remember this is an early key to hold ptd position, in which there is no short cut for success. plz pray for my success to ok!
Ive been thinking a lot about my future lately, n i think its time to move on. after most my close friends now are succcesful with their career,i think its time to step up and pursue my own goals. of cos, being a lecturer is always my passion, an interest which i could hardly forget, but now, time 2 move on. on top of that, mostly my friends now are on their way to become civil servants, a position that are hardly to be achieved in Malaysia, but once u got it, u r d luckies person in d world. i hv deeply thought abaout it, n come with a conclusion that teaching is alwiz my passion, alwiz my interest, but the most important thing is, a stability in my own life. i also think that this is the perfect time to realize my parents ambition, at least one of their children become a goverment officer.
i was having a 'crush' with PTD before, but cos of many scary stories on PTD assessments n training in INTAN, make me less interest to join it. how stupid i am! now, after 2 years waiting for 'signal', i think its d time to try again. eventhough many claim that PTD exam is quite tough, but i just want to give it a shot one more time. n even if this time luck is not in my side, i will keep trying until i got it.
historically, i sat for PTD exam 2 years ago, n alhamdulillah, i managed 2 passed d test. but, how 'crazy' i am, i did not go 2 d second assessment, cos i just got a new job in d company that im working now, n hesitant to apply 4 leave. i never thought that d exam is hardly to be scored by everybody, yet i just let the chance slipped away! thats y i really regretted d action, n with the aim to do it again,n tawakal to Allah swt, i may get d second chance. as people used to say ' Good opportunity will never come twice. if its come twice,then u r lucky'.
but, we hv 2 believe in Allah's power n glory. He knows whats best for us. He knows why he plans in such a way. never complaints on Allah's plan because everything comes with reason.
now, im in d process of looking back all news dated 1-2 months back. from the feedbacks of many, PTD questions will generally based on Malaysian history n general issues related to Malaysia. i remember one question on members on Cobbold Commission, in which i totally forget during the exam... so d questions are something like that, if u wanna try yourself, maybe u can try aswering questions on Pengajian Malaysia subject and Pengajian Am subject. its very difficult 2 predict, but i also remember they also ask about malaysian entertainments, such as question on PGL,members of senate from entertainment background, who won best actress in the global award festivals, n so on. they also frequently ask on rmk, yearly budget, national policies, sports, politics (of cos) n issues on constitution. its good also 2 know who won tokoh maal hijrah, theme for merdeka last year, theme for budget 2008, manifesto bn for 2008 election, n name of ministers. for sports, good also to know who won the latest piala malaysia, who won eur0 2008, where euro n final piala malaysia took place, n issue on badminton. i mean, this is just my predictions, not a real questions. somehow we need 2 think like the question setter. at least, we can be prepared.
for those who did not read newspaper daily(me too,heheh), just browse it using our digital media, it is much more faster than searching in tha wardobe. good to search start from December-first 2 weeks of February 2009, but the questions is not just coming from general issues lately. hot issues like english in math n science, landslide, israel occupation in gaza n many more can be considered as well.
for math, i think we better go n ask for assistance from our frenz that is good in math, teaches us some basic calculation in math, percentage, fractions, logics, n income tax calculations.
sahsiah diri? just be yourself, dnt think too long for a questions, because if we think 2 long, we tend to be dishonest. however, make sure that our honesty is 'normalised'. u got what i mean? :)
english essay n malay essei, most important is your points. just put aside all grammatical errors, especially in english. its good for u 2 highlight those points using highlighter or its good enough if u can line it properly. at least, it shows that u know what u write in. if u can managed ur time, perhaps u can make some small notes on the main points that u wanna talk about, n later on expand ur ideas creatively. but,this is not an essay writing competition, its good to follow their maximum numbers limited by them.
comprehesion? just make yourself comfortable n relax while reading. even time is consuming, but remember this tips: read the questions first, thn u read the passage. at least, u know what the passage is talking about.
i pray that all who attend this exam on 21st february will be successful in their exam. just remember this is an early key to hold ptd position, in which there is no short cut for success. plz pray for my success to ok!
Wednesday, February 4, 2009
Congrats to all my frenz...
Salam to all,
to all my friends that have been chosen as PLI students,congratulation! Allow me to name them here: Sulochini (english), Maizatu (bm) and Thavamani (pendidikan khas)... u deserve t0 get it. hope all of u all d best.
and for my beloved sister, yuziha (bm),u r wonderful. tq 4 tuning me into diff channel, a channel that ive been missing for quite a long time. i will miss ur laugh,ur jokes, ur easygoing personality n ur gossips,hehehe.
for my luvly sister, kak lina (bm), u r amazing person ive ever met. a very cool person, never gets angry easily, always smile whenever u got problem.
newly frenz razif, u r d most hardworking ustaz ive ever met, very patience n always come up with new ideas...
last but not least, my best frenz (kwn mase susah jer,hehehe) pija .... u r always there when i need you, n u never hesitant to correct me when im wrong. u also d most dynamic person ive ever met.
i hope that all of u r having a great future ahead. go on in d pursuit of ur dreams!
to all my friends that have been chosen as PLI students,congratulation! Allow me to name them here: Sulochini (english), Maizatu (bm) and Thavamani (pendidikan khas)... u deserve t0 get it. hope all of u all d best.
and for my beloved sister, yuziha (bm),u r wonderful. tq 4 tuning me into diff channel, a channel that ive been missing for quite a long time. i will miss ur laugh,ur jokes, ur easygoing personality n ur gossips,hehehe.
for my luvly sister, kak lina (bm), u r amazing person ive ever met. a very cool person, never gets angry easily, always smile whenever u got problem.
newly frenz razif, u r d most hardworking ustaz ive ever met, very patience n always come up with new ideas...
last but not least, my best frenz (kwn mase susah jer,hehehe) pija .... u r always there when i need you, n u never hesitant to correct me when im wrong. u also d most dynamic person ive ever met.
i hope that all of u r having a great future ahead. go on in d pursuit of ur dreams!
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